Sometimes, the best rules of thumb are the simplest. We only ignore them because, after all, if the rule was so simply, everyone would be doing it.
That’s the case with smiling. There are hundreds of reasons to smile, especially in social interactions and in our dating lives, but how many of us forget this when something else is churning and buzzing around in our heads? And how many of us think well, I would smile, but I’m not happy! Isn’t that dishonest?
Sometimes, what’s really dishonest is you, selling yourself short. Here are five reasons to smile more because, doggone it, you deserve to.
Reason #1: You’ll be happier.
As odd as it seems, the smile-happiness relationship can start at both ends. Sure, we smile because we’re happy, but sometimes, we’re happy because we smile. It’s no secret that the way you carry yourself affects the way you feel - and since that’s the case, there’s really no reason not to smile, unless you like being unhappy.
Buddha said “There is no way to happiness - happiness is the way.” Instead of waiting for a reason to smile, why don’t you simply decide to be happy and break out the smile until you’ve forced yourself into a good mood?
Reason #2: It’s contagious.
There’s a general rule of thumb in dating that says whatever you feel, she feels. Women are wired to look at our body language, unconsciously observe our mannerisms, and replicate those feelings in themselves so that they know what’s going on beneath the surface.
In other words, women are essentially empaths, capable of feeling the emotion you feel in any given moment. If you’re interacting with a girl you like, but you feel nervous or stifled, you’re not going to succeed very often. If you’ve smiled yourself into a happy stupor, she’ll catch on to that just as quickly, and she’ll enjoy the feeling of being around you. Can’t hurt your social life, right?
Reason #3: It says all the right things.
There’s a temptation for many guys to act like Mr. James Bond cool-man all of the time, but it isn’t rare to attempt this and fail, coming across as cold and uninterested instead of cool and calculating. Smiling, however, is easy and says all of the right things about you.
What does it say? First, especially if you follow Rule #1, that you’re a man in charge of your emotions - a big plus for any woman. Not only are you in charge of your emotions, however, you choose to bring them to a positive place - and women instinctual know that your positivity helps you in life, making you a more desirable guy.
Reason #4: You can get away with more.
When you smile, you bring an added dimension to your communication that you otherwise wouldn’t have. If you made a sexual remark with a blank stare on your face, you’d probably come across as creepy.
If you smile because you’re living your own, spectacular, fun life, then you can get away with far more. Sexual comments stop being sexual and start becoming “cheeky.” People want to laugh even at your bad jokes because, well, you’re just enjoying yourself so much. Smiling helps you get away with more than you would if you weren’t smiling.
Reason #5: It shows you are unaffected by her emotions.
The goal here is not to avoid listening or empathizing with women at all costs. But if you’re reacting to her emotions and you stop smiling because she’s sad, you’ve already started the process of self-domestication. She can own you simply because you stopped smiling.
If you decide to be happy, it’s your job to pursue that happiness no matter what obstacles you face - even women who try to “test” you emotionally to see if they can throw you off course.
The stronger you smile, the more resistant you will be to these tests, showing her that you get your emotions from one person: yourself.
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