In today’s highly feminized and equal-rights-crazy society, sometimes men forget that it’s okay to act like the big burly beast we often feel like inside. Short of growing some chest hair and grunting, here are some ways to get in touch with your inner manliness that might make you more attractive to the opposite sex.
1. Confront conflict and fears directly.
“Be a man!” is the advice you often hear when you’re being too trepidacious for your own good. Avoiding fear can be a healthy thing - I’m afraid of falling off of tall buildings, so I don’t fall off of them - but it can also be unnecessary. If you’re going to be a man, you’re going to have to confront your problems head on. Afraid of approaching that pretty girl? Man up.
Keep in mind that courage doesn’t mean that you’re not afraid. In fact, true courage often means having the poise and self-belief to act in the face of fear. As Gerard Butler said as King Leonidas in the manly film 300, fear is a constant. But you can choose how you react to that fear.
2. Create and live by a set of standards in your life.
Men have been doing this for centuries and still do it today. There’s a reason knights lived by a code: by putting principle ahead of circumstance, codes and standards help us live a cleaner, more honest life.
Women will sense whether or not you live to your own standards simply by communicating with you. They’ll instinctively feel where the boundaries are, and sometimes she’ll test them. What’s key here: how you react. You can throw a temper tantrum when something doesn’t go your way, or you can hold a set of standards for your own behavior and the behavior of people you choose to spend your time with.
3. Move.
Men are made for physical activity: in most cases, we’re stronger, faster, and more athletic than women. As politically incorrect as it may sound, there’s a reason we have separate sports in the Olympics.
That’s why you’ll want to move on nearly a daily basis: walk, run, bike, swim - it doesn’t really matter, so long as you’re exercising. The more outdoor hobbies you can find, the better.
How will this help your dating life? If you can’t see the benefits of outdoor hobbies, being in shape, and having more energy, there’s not much this article can do for you.
4. Put the moves on her.
Despite our greater level of financial equality, there is still a “dance” that happens between men and women when we’re dating. Men are expected to be the leader, so you need to start acting like one. This means you have to make the first approach, you have to ask her out on a date, and you have to be the one to go for the kiss.
Are there exceptions? Of course. But if you don’t have a lot of dating success to start with, you’re going to have to start exposing yourself to potential failure in order to move things along with your woman. Remember: they call it “manning up” for a reason.
5. Express yourself authentically.
When we think of manhood, we often think of the cold, distance “cool” guy who doesn’t like to talk. But real men aren’t afraid to speak their mind, especially in the presence of women.
When you’re with buddies, you don’t mind being casual and saying the first thing that pops into your head. As long as you can be socially aware, this is something you’ll want to do all the time. There’s something about the unpredictability of a man who follows his own instincts that excites women.
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