It’s a common frustration for the smart, kindly men of the world: try though as they might, they don’t seem to elicit the same response from women as a lot of the guys who actually seem dumber or even act like jerks. The “hot girl complaining about her jerk boyfriend to her nonthreatening male friend” stereotype really does seem to happen a lot. So is that the answer to getting women? Becoming a jerk, a bad boy, a rebel?
Not necessarily. Let’s take a look at exactly what’s driving female attraction.
Women Respond Powerfully to Behavioral Cues
Deep down, a lot of us know that it’s our behavior that has the most powerful impact in attracting women, not necessarily how we look. Many times, men make the mistake of assuming that attraction works for women the same way it works for men. It doesn’t.
But what exactly are women to attracted to? It’s one thing to say “behavioral cues,” but what types of behaviors really attract them?
They’re behaviors that reveal your high status. Status is about perception, so essentially your behaviors should reveal that you really believe you’re a high status guy. For many guys, they don’t actually believe this, so it’s hard to try to “act like it’s true.” But with some practice and some work on your beliefs, you can start to take on the qualities of a high status guy.
You’d be surprised how many behaviors reveal your low status. Behaviors like a stilted/quiet voice, fidgeting, or remaining quiet tell the world how you expect to be treated.
An Example of Behavioral Cues that Women are Attracted To
If you’d like to see what it looks like, watch the video in the article How to Have Fun and Excite Women at the Same Time. No joke. That video of English rock star Robbie Williams feeling no social filter and amusing himself doesn’t only crack up all of the women around him, it elicits plenty of responses from female commenters on its YouTube page.
In the video, Robbie Williams is being interviewed by a female reporter but decides to give her a hard time, eventually staring her down and leaning in to kiss her. It could have come across as creepy or weird, but Robbie doesn’t seem concerned with that, so it actually comes across as playful and funny.
Look at these comments it’s getting from women:
Lol if he would do that to me…. jeez I would be stress out as well but at least i would kiss him - f*** the television, camera man and other people heheh Robbie is damn sexxy
why doesnt she kiss him?
she was dazzled..
lucky b****!))who the hell can resist this?is she a lesbian?screw the fact that you r on television,it’s Roooobbie…maaan.best guy on earth
Some would say that Robbie Williams acted like a “jerk” in that video. He clearly made the reporter uncomfortable, as transfixed as she might have been. Is this really how to behave around women?
In actuality, whether or not you are a “jerk” is irrelevant. It’s more of a matter of amusing yourself and not letting her potential opinion of you govern your behavior. You say what you want because you want to say it. You do what you want because you want to do it.
If a woman can see that you don’t have a huge “filter” up, she knows that you’re not too concerned with how other people perceive you. When she sees this in your behavior, she knows that you view yourself as high status in that situation, and she becomes attracted. Whether or not you were a jerk is immaterial.
Women don’t necessarily want a bad boy. But they do want a man who’s confident enough to put his personality out there.
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