So you’ve optimized everything about yourself you can: you’ve bought new clothes, given yourself a new style, and you’ve even sharpened your wit by getting out more. But when it comes down to something as simple as asking a girl out on a date you’re still, well, stuck.
For some guys, asking a girl out on a date means finally revealing their attraction to the woman they’re interested in. For that reason alone, it can feel like there’s a lot of pressure on you.
It’s time to break through this obstacle. Asking a woman out on a date doesn’t have to be an obstacle to your success, and it doesn’t always have to feel like a burden. Here are some ways you can ask her out without as much worry.
Did you ever notice that sometimes, when you feel nervous to give a speech, you find compelled to explain why you’re so nervous? I’ve made this mistake, and really, there’s no reason to address the fact that you’re nervous at all.
Some men make this mistake when asking a woman out. Your body language and nonverbal communication should say This is casual, I don’t feel a lot of pressure at all. If I get rejected, I won’t be hurt. When you say something to the tune of “I’m not even sure if you’ll say yes, but I wanted to know if you’d go out with me,” you can end up communicating that you’re not very comfortable at all.
Can this work? Sure; if the woman’s already interested in you.
But if you want to be more casual, ask the woman out like it’s a natural thing - the way you’d ask a friend to hang out. “Hey, I was thinking of going and grabbing dinner right now. You want to join me?”
Keep it simple, stupid!
Of course, keeping it casual is nice, but it’s not always fun.
One great way to interact with women you’re interested in is to be over-the-top flirtatious. For example, if she mentions that she’s single, you might say “You’re single? What are you doing Friday?” Obviously, you’re being humorous, but at the same time it shows you’re not afraid to be a little forward.
To have a little fun with asking her out, you can try a funny way to do it: Ask her something bigger, like “Will you marry me?” If she playfully says “Yes” in reply, you can smoothly segue into asking her to dinner. If she says “No,” you can say something to the tune of “Well, how about at least dinner then,” showing her that you’re actually serious this time.
Don’t use these examples word-for-word. Use them as a guide to help you understand the principles behind the words. Stay relaxed, be willing to risk it and hear “No,” and you should do just fine.
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