http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-advice-how-to-pick-yourself-up-after-rejection Simple:Press Forum Version 4.0.1 http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-advice-how-to-pick-yourself-up-after-rejection/#p12 Dating & Love Advice http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-advice-how-to-pick-yourself-up-after-rejection/#p12 1. Have commitment that goes deeper than the fear of rejection. If you're getting your dating life handled, you need to approach it with a military-like sense of commitment and dedication. You can't half-heartedly pursue love. You have to go and make things happen, and you have to go out at least a few times a week. The way to master fear is to feel a sense of purpose that runs deeper than the fear itself. You have to get to a point where you decide that you are going to find a great woman, and that the journey will be well worth the tough nights when no girls would talk to you and the embarrassments you run in to. There are no overnight success stories. Everyone has to walk the learning curve. You too. The question is, when you see that girl you like, and you feel like you don't have enough "game" to approach her, and you're afraid of her rejecting you, what's stronger? The fear, or the passion? I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. -Michael Jordan 2. Use the rejections as inspiration, not perspiration. Most guys sweat (perspire) rejections pretty hard. After all, you're laying your personality on the line when you ask a girl for her phone number, or to meet you for a date. If she rejects you, you might feel like it's a blow to your worth as a person. Don't sweat rejections. A one-minute interaction isn't enough for her to know your value as a human being. Just because she doesn't want to date you, doesn't mean you're a bad person. Instead, use rejections as inspiration. Did you make that first leap, approach a strange woman and ask her out? Did she turn you down? Good! You should be thrilled you had more guts than most men! Turn that momentum into more approaches. Keep working. 3. Use rejections to help you. Odd as it sounds, in some ways, guys need to be rejected by women as a way of helping them. How can this be? Well, there wouldn't be much personal growth involved in the dating world if every woman you saw thought you were the greatest thing since sliced bread. The more you get rejected, the number you are to it. The more you get rejected, the more you learn to look inside yourself for your sense of self-worth, not to girls. Rejections can really help you develop into a better man. This builds you up in ways that sitting around and reading about how to date girls won't. 4. View rejections in a healthy way. Not every woman will reject you, and not every woman will love you. If you have one bad night, don't feel like the slump will last forever. The more you swing for the fences, the more you'll strike out. It's that simple. It's okay to fail, as long as you're not hurting anybody, and you have a healthy attitude that says "I will eventually figure this out, and in the process I will grow as a man." ]]> Sun, 15 Feb 2009 18:13:34 -0600