http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-advice-principles-of-clean-self-esteem Simple:Press Forum Version 4.0.1 http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-advice-principles-of-clean-self-esteem/#p28 Dating & Love Advice http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-advice-principles-of-clean-self-esteem/#p28 Principle #1:  Treat everyone like they have equal value. You become a "natural" with women when you become a natural with everyone.  The more you get used to socializing with "the old guy in the corner" as well as the dolled-up stunner, the more you'll start to realize that every person has equal value in this world.  Talk to everybody, not just the people you think are worth your time. What possible benefits can this have to helping you get women?  Imagine developing the habit of treating everyone like they have equal value, and then speaking to a gorgeous woman who is used to every single guy treating her like the queen of the room.  The more you are used to treating everyone with respect, the less importance you'll place on any one particular girl. This, of course, is attractive to women:  they don't want to be the only thing you have going in your life.  When you take on the habit of treating everyone like they have equal value, you'll learn to place less emphasis on the reactions of that one girl and will become more naturally "cool" and "confident" because you're more at ease. Principle #2:  Realize that you can get your emotions from within. Too many of us give the power of our emotions away to our external circumstances.  We think that we need a "good night" to have a good time, or a "good first date" to feel proud of ourselves. The male brain doesn't and shouldn't work that way.  Instead of drawing your emotions from your environment, you have to start creating those emotions. Try it right now.  Take five minutes and look in the mirror.  Smile.  Jump around a bit.  Dance ridiculously.  Imagine things that make you happy.  You'll probably start to notice a few sparks of genuine happiness arise - even though there's nothing to be "happy about." Aren't you a little annoyed that no one taught you this before? You can be happy at any time. You just have to make the decision and follow through and start acting happy. When you realize that you should get your emotions from yourself and not your circumstances, you'll feel more responsible for your emotional well-being.  But you'll also feel freer because you don't let anyone one failure or rejection get to you:  you know you can trust yourself not to lose heart. When you start trusting yourself, you start believing in yourself - this results in genuine self-confidence. Principle #3:  Walk your own path - no one else's. There is perhaps nothing so potent in the dating world as the effect a man who knows his mission in life can have on women.  In other words, chicks dig guys with lives. What this means is that you place more importance on your own life, goals, and standards than any one woman.  If you approach a woman and get shot down, your core isn't shaken because you didn't place your self-worth in her reaction to you. Instead, your are your own rock, a fixed point in the universe. Place your self-esteem in your own actions and your own goals.  Does this mean you have to go out and try "cool" things like becoming a great DJ?  No.  You can try to become a great dart player as long as you are comfortable with your goals and priorities. Have you ever noticed that the times in your life that you "got a girlfriend" were when you were least looking for one?  Chances are that this happened because you placed your priorities elsewhere, and women could "smell" that feeling of abundance and self-confidence simply in the way you carried yourself. ]]> Wed, 04 Mar 2009 12:51:27 -0600