http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-tips-texting-101 Simple:Press Forum Version 4.0.1 http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-tips-texting-101/#p33 Dating & Love Advice http://www.hottiematchup.com/forums/dating-love-advice/dating-tips-texting-101/#p33 Successful High-Tech Communication, we talked about the role technology can play in your interactions with women.  But what about texting itself - which is becoming just as popular as talking over the phone?  If you know how to handle texts the right way, you can make technology work for you instead of against you.  Here are some tips for accomplishing just that. Don't respond to every text message. There's no need to, especially if it costs you money.  If someone sends you something negative that's only going to pick a fight, why respond to it?  You don't need to come up with some clever, deflecting response that will get the girl on your side.  Instead, let the bad texts roll off your back and spend more time responding to good ones. If you're going to text, do it quickly. If you meet a girl in person and get her phone number, you can text her the same night so that she gets used to having you as a "text" buddy.  This is especially useful if you're meeting a lot of women and need a simple way to handle the numbers you're getting.  Don't get too elaborate; just say "Hey - have a good night.  -Dan" or something similar.  Don't worry if she responds or not. Use texting to quickly talk to a lot of women. If you're having a slow night or are feeling board, try sending out a "mass text" in order to see what kind of fun you can generate.  Text lots of the available women in your contacts list - or even the not-available ones - to see if anything fun is going on.  Or if you're really feeling cheeky, have some fun with them by simply messing around with texts. Amuse yourself first. You don't have to treat text messages as serious overtures to the girl you desire.  Instead, the way you text should reflect the way you approach life:  you don't place too much importance on any one interaction with the girl, so you'll even be willing to "mess with her" in order to have a good time.  Don't do this in a creepy way; do it with girls you've texted before (remember, you texted her the night you met her). Don't rely on texting in the wrong cases. Text messaging can be fun and can help you communicate with a lot of people at the same time, but it can't be used as a substitute for confidence.  If you meet a girl online and get her phone number, call her up first.  Remember, as the male, it's your duty to escalate and lead the interaction, not wuss out every time there's a step forward to take.  Text only when you've already met a girl in person. Don't forget to be sexual. Even though text messages might seem like a silly way to set up an interaction with a healthy amount of sexual tension, you have to remember that you're not using your texts with these girls to make friends.  Some of this is accomplished by amusing yourself first, but you also have to remember that you're not a texting clown sent in to provide laughs.  Remember, you're interested in this girl, and let it show indirectly.  Be confident and be willing to drop the conversation and simply text "Let's go out tomorrow night." ]]> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:22:10 -0500